13 – 15 years: Empathy and social intelligence

Imagine that your friend is feeling sad but doesn't want to say why. How would you react? I will stay with him and try to encourage him in a non-violent way.
I suggest that we do something together so that he doesn't have to think about it.
I'll leave him be; if he doesn't want to talk, it's his business.
I will try to ask him indirectly to find out what is going on.
I will look for someone else who could help him.

A new student joined the school who doesn't know anyone. How would you behave? I will approach him and invite him to join our group.
I'll give him time to look around first, but I'll keep an eye on whether he feels lonely.
If he approaches me, I will help him, but I don't get very involved on my own.
I'm not sure how I should behave toward him, so I prefer to avoid contact.
It's the teacher's job; I don't interfere.

Imagine that your classmate did something embarrassing in front of the whole class. What would you do? I'll try to lighten the situation and help him feel better.
I will laugh, but later I will tell him not to worry.
I'd rather not say anything, let it be forgotten quickly.
I will join the others who are laughing, after all, it's nothing serious.
I will warn others not to laugh at him and I will support him.

In a school project, your team is arguing about how to complete it. How do you react? I will try to mediate a compromise so that we can move forward.
I propose a vote to resolve the issue democratically.
I'm staying out of it and letting others come to an agreement.
I will support the party that I believe has the better idea.
Negotiating tires me out; I’d rather do my part and let the others argue.

If your friend tells you that they feel lonely even when they are among people, how would you respond? I will ask him why he feels that way, and I will try to understand him.
I will suggest that he join a club or group.
I'll tell him that I feel that way sometimes too, and we can talk about it more.
I'll change the topic so we can focus on something more cheerful.
I don't know what to say, so I just nod and wait for what he will say next.

You see that someone is being unpleasant to your friend. What do you do? I will stand up for him and tell that person to stop.
I will support him at least privately and tell him that he can rely on me.
I will assess the situation and decide whether it is better to intervene or not.
I won't get involved in it so I don't create problems for myself.
I will join the others so I don't feel left out of the group.

Imagine that your friend has a different opinion than you on something important. How do you react? I will listen to his viewpoint and try to understand his arguments.
I will try to explain my point of view to him, but without an argument.
I discuss, but only if I feel that it makes sense to convince them.
I stand by my position because I know that I am right.
I don't want to argue, so I'll just nod and leave it at that.

In a group activity, you notice that one classmate is completely ignored. What will you do? I will involve him in the discussion and encourage him to express himself.
I'll give him space discreetly, but I won't force him.
I'll leave it up to him; if he wants to be silent, he probably has a reason for it.
I ignore it, after all, it's not my problem.
Later, I will ask him if everything is alright.

Your friend did something wrong, but no one knows about it yet. What will you do? I will tell him that he should confess to it because it is the right thing to do.
I will suggest a way for him to fix the situation without major problems.
I'll leave it up to him, it's his decision.
I don't want to interfere, but if someone asks me, I'll tell the truth.
I will cover for him because he is my friend.

Imagine that you are in a group of people who are mockingly talking about someone. How would you behave? I'll tell them it's not right, and I'm trying to change the subject.
I do not express myself, but I do not laugh either.
If it’s not my friend, I’ll leave it like that.
I'll join in with the jokes to fit in with the group.
I will leave because I don't like it.