The ability to forgive and reconcile.

Imagine that a close person has hurt you in an unexpected way. What is your first thought? I need time to understand what actually happened.
I feel a wave of anger within me, but I know it will pass.
I am looking for reasons why he would do it, maybe he had his reasons.
I feel betrayed and I need to distance myself immediately.
I perceive it as a test of the relationship and I am thinking about how to handle it.

How do you behave after an argument that was particularly emotional? I want to talk as soon as possible and resolve the situation.
I am keeping my distance and waiting to see if the other side will reach out first.
I feel hurt and I need to talk to someone else.
I want to disappear for a while and let my emotions cool down.
I'm thinking about whether it was fair and whether I should even try.

If someone who has hurt you apologizes, but you don't feel it's sincere, what will you do? I accept it, but internally I maintain my distance.
I will openly ask him if he means it seriously.
I will forgive, but I will remember the situation.
I won't say anything, but my behavior towards him will change.
I will try to put myself in his shoes and understand his perspective.

You have the opportunity to reconnect with someone you argued with a long time ago. How do you react? I feel relief and I am glad that we have a new chance.
I am cautious and I don't know if I want to open up.
I am considering whether this is just a temporary reconciliation.
I feel that some things should remain in the past.
I want to first hear what he/she has to say about it.

Which idea is closest to you when you think about forgiveness? To forgive means to liberate primarily yourself.
Not everything can be forgiven; sometimes it's better to leave.
Forgiveness must be earned through actions, not words.
Time changes many things, including the perspective on what happened.
If I care about the relationship, I will forgive, but I will be cautious.

How do you react when you see someone refusing to forgive another person, even though they have apologized? I understand that everyone needs their time to forgive.
I think that holding onto anger doesn't help anything.
It depends on how serious what happened was.
Perhaps the other one does not know how to express sincere regret properly.
I believe that some wounds heal longer than we think.

Someone you have forgiven makes the same mistake again. How will you react? I'll give him one more chance, but I'll be more cautious.
It is a signal for me that I need to protect myself.
I will look for a way to solve it without anger.
I will realize that maybe I am the one who needs to move on.
I care about the relationship, but I need more than just promises.

If you could go back in time and change your approach to one disagreement, would you do it? Yes, I could have said some words differently.
No, I believe that everything happens for a reason.
It depends on how much the situation affected me.
Yes, but only if it would also change the attitude of the other person.
No, mistakes are also part of my development.

If you had to define forgiveness in one sentence, what would it be? Forgiveness is a gift that I give to myself and to others.
Forgiveness means letting go of the past, but not forgetting.
Some wounds only heal when we leave them be.
Forgiveness is not a weakness, but a decision.
To forgive means to give someone a second chance, but wisely.

Imagine that you are in a conflict with someone who matters to you. What is more important to you? To understand each other and find a solution.
To be heard and acknowledged.
So that we both learn a lesson.
So that I don't feel humiliated or hurt.
So that we can move forward without anger and burden.