Emotional availability

How emotionally available are you in your relationships? This test is designed for anyone looking to enhance their emotional intelligence and understand themselves better. By answering the questions, you’ll explore your reactions to others' emotions, your communication styles, and how you establish boundaries. It will help you reflect on your emotional responses, relationship dynamics, and the support you seek or provide.

Understanding your emotional availability can lead to valuable insights about your interactions with loved ones, work colleagues, and friends. The results may shine a light on how you connect or withdraw in challenging situations, enabling you to apply this knowledge towards fostering deeper connections and healthier relationships in everyday life.

When someone close to you is going through a tough time, how do you naturally react to that?

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I'm trying to cheer them up and distract them from the problem. I will offer them a practical solution so they can move forward. I just listen and try to understand their feelings. Sometimes I don't know what to say, and I feel powerless. I avoid situations where I feel that others are projecting their emotions onto me.

Imagine that a close person is talking to you about their fears, which they perceive as large, but to you they seem small. What will you do?

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I will tell him that it's not that serious, and I will encourage him to get over it. I'm trying to understand why it means so much to him. I will offer him a different perspective that could help him see things more clearly. I may feel frustrated, but I try not to hide it. I don't focus on the content, but on its emotional state and how I can support it.

When you feel emotionally overwhelmed, how does it affect your communication with your loved ones?

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I will withdraw into myself and stop responding to messages. I talk about it, but only with someone I really trust. I express it through humor or irony. I am trying to behave normally, but inside I feel distant. I am looking for physical contact or closeness to feel safe.

If a close person reacts to your feelings differently than you expected, what do you most often do?

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I will take offense and pull away for a moment. I will try to explain to them why I expected a different reaction. I will start analyzing whether I expressed my feelings incorrectly. I'll leave it as it is and convince myself that it doesn't matter. I tell myself that they might react differently than they know, and I take it with a sense of detachment.

How would you describe your boundaries in emotional relationships?

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I have them, but I often bend them to maintain harmony. They are solid, and I can clearly state what is acceptable to me and what is not. Sometimes I don't know exactly where they are, and I only find out in specific situations. I always try to be there for others, even though it exhausts me. I don't always realize that someone is crossing my boundaries until I start to feel bad.

What is your first impulse when you see that someone close is closing themselves off?

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I am trying to cheer him up and bring lightness to the situation. I am waiting to see if he will tell me what is happening, and I will give him space. I will start to notice the details and think about what might be bothering him. I feel the fear that I might have accidentally harmed him/her. I give him space, but at the same time, I let him know that I'm here if he needs me.

When you feel the need for emotional support, how do you most often seek it?

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I will directly ask someone I trust for it. I'm waiting to see if someone notices that I need her. I am looking for contact, but I do not speak about it openly. I try to distract myself in different ways, such as through work or hobbies. I suppress it and tell myself that I have to deal with it on my own.

What type of communication helps you feel the most emotionally fulfilled?

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Simple and honest conversations without unnecessary analyzing. Deep discussions where I can express all my thoughts and feelings. Physical proximity and nonverbal gestures that express care. Positive and playful communication that makes me happy. When someone can be silent beside me, but I can feel their presence.

When I disappoint someone or make a mistake in a relationship, what is my natural reaction?

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I will immediately apologize and try to rectify the situation. I am deeply analyzing it and thinking about what I could have done differently. I'll let the situation sit for a while and then I'll come back to it. I feel guilty and have the need to somehow "make amends." I'm trying not to think about it and I hope it will resolve itself over time.

If you had to choose a metaphor for your emotional expression, what would it be?

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An open book – my emotions are visible to everyone. Safe – I have many feelings inside me, but very few have access to them. Mirror – I adjust to the emotional moods of others. The sea - sometimes calm, sometimes turbulent, but always deep. The journey - I am constantly evolving and learning how to express what I feel.

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