The right motivation creates miracles with children.

Imagine that your child has lost interest in their favorite activity. What is the first thing that comes to your mind? Maybe it needs a break – even we adults sometimes lose our enthusiasm.
Something has changed – maybe he/she is not feeling well or has a problem.
It should last – after all, when I start something, I have to finish it.
It means that it wasn't right for him – we are going to look for something new.
Maybe I pushed it too hard and now it is afraid of failing.

If your child achieves an unexpected success, what goes through your mind? He has more potential than he thinks – he needs support in that.
Had bad luck – next time it could be different.
Great! But we'll see if it lasts.
It is evident that effort pays off – this should be highlighted.
He deserves praise, but he should also be aware of his responsibilities.

How would you describe the right motivation in children? When children want to by themselves, not when they have to.
When they feel support, not pressure.
When they achieve goals, but also play while doing so.
When they learn from obstacles and do not give up.
When they are not afraid to make mistakes.

Your child comes home with a note from school. How do you react internally? I want to first know what happened from his perspective.
I’m afraid that I have failed somewhere as a parent.
I will feel anger – discipline is important.
I am afraid of what others will think of us.
I wonder if he felt safe and understood.

How do you feel when your child refuses to do something they "should"? I'm wondering why he refuses it - maybe something bothers him.
I feel frustration – sometimes we have to do unpleasant things as well.
I am asking if I could present it differently.
I am afraid that it leads to laziness or defiance.
I am trying to understand him and find common ground.

What does "successful child" mean to you? Such that is content with itself.
Those that do what they enjoy and fulfill them.
Those who can fight when needed.
Those that have results to be proud of.
Those that know how to behave and respect the rules.

What will you do if your child gives up something they used to enjoy? I will consider whether his needs or the world around him have changed.
I will ask what led him to that and how he feels.
I suggest that you can try it again at any time.
I will say that they need to learn to overcome declines in motivation as well.
I respect that – maybe something better awaits him.

What sentences from childhood do you often hear in your head when you are raising children? "When you start something, you have to finish it."
"You can do it!"
"Don't forget to say thank you and be polite."
"If it's not working, try it another way."
"Without work, there are no cakes."

What do you think reduces children's motivation the most? The feeling that it doesn't make sense or that it will never be good enough.
Criticism without offering help
Pressure for performance without the possibility of rest
Comparing with other children
When no one cares about what really interests them.

What childhood experience comes to your mind when you hear the word "praise"? When I did something unexpected and they appreciated it.
When I tried very hard and they noticed it.
When I received a compliment, but I didn't believe it.
When the praise came too late, when I no longer cared about it.
When I had to "earn" it and it didn't just come on its own.