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How to talk to children about grades without yelling and blame.

How to talk to children about grades without yelling and blame.

Playful headline. Each of us has unique strengths and hidden abilities waiting to be discovered. It is important that we support and develop them, especially in our children.

In this module, you will learn how to talk to children about grades in a way that supports their self-esteem and motivation. You will discover effective communication techniques that help create a positive learning environment.

Understanding and empathy – you will learn how to listen to and understand your children's feelings about their performance.
Encouraging positive thinking – you will find out how to encourage children to focus on their strengths.
Constructive feedback – you will learn how to formulate feedback in a motivating rather than criticizing way.
Balance between success and failure – you will discover how to talk about failures as opportunities for growth.
Jointly set goals – you will learn how to involve children in the goal-setting process so they feel responsible for their learning.

Conclusion: Try this module and discover how you can turn discussions about grades into encouraging and motivating conversations. Your children deserve it!

Imagine your child comes home with a worse grade than you expected. What is the first thing that crosses your mind? Maybe I pushed him too hard.
He can't concentrate – something is probably weighing on his mind.
It’s happening again, I’m getting angry.
No worries, it's just a grade.
I need to find out what exactly happened.

How would you describe the silence that follows the announcement of a bad grade? Suffocating, full of anticipation.
The silence in which I try to take a deep breath.
Unpleasant, but necessary.
Natural – I give things space.
Silence as a warning – something must come.

Which words best describe your inner dialogue in such situations? "He must try harder."
"I must be calm."
"I should have expected it."
"How would I perceive it as a child?"
"What options does he have when something isn't going well for him?"

If you could choose a metaphor for academic failure, what would it be? A road with potholes – slower, but it leads further.
Avalanche - a small failure triggers a chain of events.
Fog – I don't know what is behind it.
A stone in the shoe – it’s annoying, but it can be managed.
The storm – intense, but it will pass.

How do you react when a child does not show remorse or interest in a bad grade? I'm looking for a way to talk to him even when he is silent.
I feel rejected.
I take responsibility – maybe I don't understand him.
I'm giving him space, maybe he needs time.
I want to know what he feels, even if he doesn't say it.

What tone should a conversation about grades have, in your opinion? Factual – without unnecessary emotions.
Open – I want to know his perspective.
Emphatic – grades are important.
Supportive – I want him to feel accepted.
Reflective – learning from one's own mistakes.

Which sentence would bother you the most if it were said to you as a child? "How could you mess that up?"
"That's a shame."
You are a disappointment.
"I didn't expect that from you."
"It's okay, I was never interested in grades either."

How would you describe your approach to mistakes? They are an essential part of growth.
I am afraid of them, even though I don't admit it.
I prefer to preempt them rather than having to deal with them.
I am curious about what caused them.
Mistakes frustrate me - they show my failure.

When do you feel that a child is most attentive to what you are saying? When I sincerely ask him for his opinion.
When I am calm and present.
When I raise my voice.
When I tell him something about myself.
When I feel that I can trust him/her.

Which image best represents your parenting goal? The hand that lifts.
Compass in a dense forest.
A mirror in which one can see oneself and others.
House with open doors.
Wall with a map of options.