Why It Sometimes Helps to Stop Giving Advice

Why It Sometimes Helps to Stop Giving Advice

Not every challenge a child faces needs an immediate answer. Discover how games and questions encourage independent thinking and cooperation.

Adults may be tempted to resolve a disagreement quickly or show a child the easiest way forward, but children learn a lot by finding their own approach. Instead of giving them the answer, try asking: What might happen if you tried a different way of reaching an agreement? Through safe play, children can discover that pausing to listen to others isn’t a waste of time—it’s a useful first step towards finding a solution.

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