Relationships Grow Through the Attention We Give Each Other

Relationships Grow Through the Attention We Give Each Other

See how mental energy affects communication with family, friends and colleagues—and how paying attention can strengthen mutual understanding.

Our conversations take place in different settings, and each of us brings a different level of focus or fatigue. When we acknowledge this, it becomes easier to agree on a good time to talk, express our needs clearly and avoid interpreting every distraction as a lack of interest. Being more mindful of our energy can benefit not only individual relationships, but also the way we communicate in groups and at work.

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Imagine you are spending an evening with someone who is close to you. The room is quiet. What do you become most aware of?

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Someone will reveal something very personal to you. How do you react?

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Which of these places would you choose for a conversation that has the potential to change your relationship with someone?

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Your close friend is changing in a way that you don't understand. What will you do?

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When someone does not respond to your closeness the way you would like, how do you feel?

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Which word resonates the most with you regarding the word closeness?

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Which image would best capture your idea of a deep connection between two people?

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What hinders you the most from being completely honest in relationships?

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How do you know that you are really close to someone?

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If you were to build a deep bond with someone, where would you start?

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