When Two Values Come into Conflict at Work

Not every good decision comes without a cost

You have the chance to work on a more interesting project, but it will mean less time with people close to you. Or you could take on a better-paid contract, even though you’re uncomfortable with its terms. In both cases, two values that matter are in conflict.

First, name both sides of the conflict without judging them: for example, financial security and free time. Then distinguish between a firm boundary and something you could negotiate. If working every weekend is a problem, perhaps you could agree to help on an exceptional occasion in return for time off on another day. If an offer requires dishonest conduct, the financial benefit may not be a worthwhile trade-off.

Ask yourself: “If I choose this option, what exactly will I have less of?” This helps you avoid imagining you can get every benefit without a cost. Also consider who else will be affected by your decision.

You don’t have to put the same value first in every situation. Your priorities may depend on your stage of life and how urgent things are. What matters is understanding your own trade-off and checking in on it over time.

Put it into practice: Write down two values that often come into conflict at work. For each, identify one non-negotiable boundary and one thing you’d be willing to discuss. This gives you a clearer starting point for the next conversation.