When Conversation Becomes a Source of Tension

When Conversation Becomes a Source of Tension

Tense conversations don’t have to end in misunderstanding. Discover techniques to help you listen, think things through and speak more calmly.

When disagreement arises in a conversation, it’s easy to focus on defending your own position and stop hearing what the other person is really saying. Moments like these can leave you feeling frustrated and wondering whether you’ll ever find common ground. On this page, you’ll find ways to pause before reacting, ask open-ended questions and express your point of view without needlessly escalating the discussion. You’ll also find games and prompts to help you practise critical thinking and foster a greater sense of safety in conversations.

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Imagine you are participating in a discussion where an opinion is expressed that contradicts your beliefs. What will you do first?

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How do you envision an ideally led group discussion?

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In the group, someone often interrupts others. How do you respond?

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When you have to lead a discussion on an unknown topic, what motivates you the most?

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If someone is silent during a discussion, what do you think?

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How do you cope with the fact that your opinion was rejected?

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What kind of environment do you think truly supports deep discussion?

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During the discussion, someone shares a highly emotional perspective. How do you respond?

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How do you work with a group where everyone is trying to push their opinion?

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When you feel that something doesn't make sense, what do you do?

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How to conduct effective discussions that develop critical thinking

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