Set a boundary and let your child speak up

Your child’s feelings and the agreed rule can both be acknowledged

Your child wants to keep playing in the evening, even though it’s the agreed time to turn the game off. You can acknowledge that they’re in the middle of something that matters to them. Then remind them of the rule and offer a choice you can follow through on.

“I can see you wanted to finish the game. We agreed to stop at eight. Would you like to save it yourself or do it together?” Once you’ve both calmed down, listen to their suggestion for another day. For example, you could start playing earlier so there’s time to finish a game that’s already in progress.

Practice. Imagine a situation with an agreed time to leave. Acknowledge how they feel, remind them of the agreement, and offer one practical choice.

It’s the agreed time to stop playing. The game can be saved straight away. Which response upholds the agreement while giving your child room to respond?

I understand you want to keep playing. It’s time to stop. Would you like to save the game yourself, or shall we do it together?I’ll let you play another round today if you promise to stop without complaining tomorrow.Let’s go through all the reasons for the rule first. Keep playing until we agree.I’ll save the game and turn it off without explaining. We can talk about how you feel tomorrow.

Set a boundary and let your child speak up

Your child’s feelings and the agreed rule can both be acknowledged

It’s the agreed time to stop playing. The game can be saved straight away. Which response upholds the agreement while giving your child room to respond?

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