Address disagreement through facts and specific impacts

Don’t assume someone’s intentions without checking

A colleague’s message arrived in the evening, and you were waiting to make a decision. You haven’t confirmed that they “deliberately ignored” you. If you start with an accusation, the other person may get defensive and the practical issue may remain unresolved.

State the fact and its impact: “Your reply came after the working day ended, so I couldn’t confirm the proposal before the meeting. I need to know when I can expect a response.” Then ask about the circumstances and agree on what to do next time. If there are threats, humiliation, or a power imbalance, a formal process or support from a third party may be needed.