Boundaries, consent and safety

Nonverbal behaviour can’t replace explicit consent

A smile, a nod, being close or staying silent don’t necessarily mean consent. For touch, a personal topic or a next step that may cross someone’s boundaries, ask directly and respect their answer. If someone steps back, stiffens or stops responding, pause and check whether they want to continue. These behaviours don’t reveal the reason on their own, but they are enough to tell you not to push further.

A clear question could be: “Would you be comfortable if I sat next to you?” or “Would you like to continue talking about this?” If the answer isn’t clear, don’t treat it as a yes. Offer another option and give the person room to decide.

The same applies to your own boundaries. You can say: “I need more space,” “I don’t want to continue this topic right now” or “Let’s continue when we have more time.” You don’t have to prove that your reason is serious enough.

If you experience pressure, intimidation or concerns for your safety, don’t rely on reading gestures. End the interaction, seek support and follow the appropriate workplace or personal procedures.